10 Habits of a Healthy Relationship

The characteristics of a what makes a healthy relationship will differ from couple to couple. It takes effort and time to form a positive and trusting partnership. The strongest and longest-lasting couples are better equipped with skills that enrich the bond and alleviate conflict. We have listed below habits that will help you create and cultivate a happy relationship.


1. Communication

Communication is one of the most important factors to a healthy relationship. It’s how couples are able to express what they truly think rather than attempting to guess what’s on the other person’s mind. Communication isn’t just about discussing the easy things (like making dinner plans or asking which dress looks better), it’s also being able to openly talk about difficult topics. In order to grow in a relationship, it’s necessary to able to be transparent about your feelings. This will create a long-lasting fulfilling relationship.

2. Love Language

Gary Chapman came up with the belief that men and women have five love languages. This includes words of affirmation, receiving gifts, quality time, acts of service and physical touch. He theorized that people tend to to give love in the way that they prefer to receive it. Since we don’t have the same preferences as our partner, it’s important to know which love languages speak to you and your loved one. Through understanding each other’s love language, it’ll make both partners feel more loved and connected.

3. Quality Time

It’s not about how much time you spend with your partner, it’s about how much quality was in that time spent. From time to time, it’s okay to zone out on distractions around each other — i.e. scrolling through your phone, playing video games, etc. However, it’s critical to engage and spend high quality time together (i.e. date night) to cultivate a deep connection. This will help the other partner feel loved and important.

4. Work

Good relationships take a lot of hard work — at least initially. You cannot be lazy and try to sustain a relationship over the years. It’s similar to cultivating a new skill; it requires knowledge, practice and diligence. Eventually over time, the experience of nurturing the relationship will feel less like work. It will start feeling more like a labor of love where both partners feel more grateful and blessed.

5. Independence

Even in a relationship, you are still responsible for you own happiness. Remember, no one person can make you happy and give you purpose. You have to love, accept and believe you’re worthy before you expect your partner to do the same. When you don’t love yourself inwardly, giving love can be challenging. You have more to provide in a relationship when you are whole.

6. Support

You can take on the world when you have a good partner in life — someone who is beside you to help you get through the ups and downs. They lift you to a higher ground so that you see your way through adversity. And when things are going well, they are also interested and excited about your goals. Overall, supportive relationships can help reduce stress, improve an individual’s well-being and adds quality to life.

7. Goals

Creating goals can help enrich each partner’s life and further bond the relationship. To set goals, you can start with something small and achievable. This can vary from waking up at 5am together, going to the gym together once a week, doing something new each month, etc. According to Roy Baumeister and Mark Leary, social psychologists, humans have an inherent motivation to belong in close and intimate relationships. They state, “We are naturally driven toward establishing and sustaining belongingness.” As a couple, creating and achieving goals is one of the most powerful things you can do. You can share the success with the person you love.

8. Appreciation

This may be something you think about everyday, but also be sure to show your partner. Even if there’s a routine where your partner automatically does something for you, don’t forget to let them know. This act can be done through words, gifts, flowers and so on. This will make your partner feel valued, loved and respected. A little gesture can go a long way!

9. No Comparisons

Relationships are not sustained by comparing and supposing. With social media as a part of our daily lives, it’s easy to succumb to the notion that all relationships are perfect, romantic and joyful. However, keep in mind that no one really knows what goes on besides the couple themselves. You cannot compare your relationship to a presumption. Instead, use that energy to start enriching and deepening your own relationship.

10. Acceptance

It’s easy to overlook, ignore or spin differences when couples first start dating. However over time, the blanket of ignorant bliss start to disappear; no two people will align with every issue. For instance, one partner may want more depth and intimacy in the relationship but the other partner may not be ready for it. It is essential to let go of idealistic dreams of making someone into the perfect boyfriend or girlfriend. Nobody is perfect, and it’s those traits and quirks that makes individuals unique. When partners are accepted as they are, it builds the relationship on authenticity.